Hello it’s me [leftover woman]. Do not get me wrong, leftover woman is also human we are not monster. Culture, Social value, family puts so much pressures on [leftover woman], do you think it is easy for standing here with a lot fighting? We are here leftover women are fighting, struggling too hard to have our own today to be a strong woman. I was born in Cambodia where the place that value and care too much on culture, social and what other people thinking about their life……… I am sick of the same old stuff, most of my friends they were married and had kids; I am the one who leftover but I do not care, I have a good job, good education and good pay. What I have experienced people thought about [leftover woman], they said leftover woman mostly are bad girl, poor manner, like hang out with guys, no idea with housework, and was born in the ugly ones, that is why no one propose them. I am telling you here if you are thinking that way you are dead wrong, why you don’t think leftover woman is incredible? They are not looking for the perfect ones but the right ones. I am here not to judge marriage people, marriage or not is the choice.
Marriage word in my own dictionary is meant the commitment between of two people would like to spend their times together not the piece of the legal paper, but I still respect and comply with each countries regulations and laws, especially kingdom of Cambodia.
I am so in touch with this word [leftover woman] almost a decade since I was 20 years old, why don’t you married are you waiting for perfect man? Are you so picky? Why are you still single? WHY…. WHY… question is spinning around my head when I was visiting home, here is the reason sometimes I just stay home not to visit my friends or neighbors so annoying. But so what ….Am I wrong just to be a leftover woman? Did I put fire on your house? Did I rob someone? Did I make any criminal? I am here leftover woman have been struggling hard with my life, I left home since I decided to find my challenging in big city Phnom Penh, Do you think it was easy to live alone without parent? Do you know what i was feeling and anxiety about the world was going to treat me? Do not judge if you have never put your foots in my shoes.
I used to be a little girl was feed by parent; they gave me the best love, care, compassion and education, their unconditional love to me is priceless, But you cannot cage me. I am sorry if I did wrong or did not listen to you, nor following what you want me to be, I am who I am. For me I don’t really care what people says [i am the leftover woman] because they don’t pay me the bills, why I have to waste my time putting their words in my head? It is nonsense. what I care the most is my parent’s thinking.
Dear all [leftover women] listen to me you are wonderful person, you are beautiful in your own way, you are incredible, you are intelligent and smart, [You Are the Queen] was crowned by yourself, you do not need a king to put it on. You have been fighting a long way to walk on your path. If they are not happy with your [leftover woman] leave it, it is not your business to please them, make yourself happy, and love yourself when no one loves you, If you are down to the road and someone approach to you and say HI…………… [Leftover woman] don’t be surprise, give them a sweet smile and reply Yeah…I am the leftover woman [I AM THE QUEEN].
