I have been making many mistakes and continually, because I am human. The one big mistakes in my life is assuming. I always assume, assume that people’s going to think and doing the same way like I thought, I never ask them. Do not think you are smart enough to understand and read all people’ mind if you are not sure just ask don’t make any assuming. A lot of misunderstanding is coming from assuming, for example one Chinese’s couple who has married for 30 years, they have bun for their breakfast every morning, the wife keeps the top of the bun for her husband all the time, she assumes that her husband is going to like it, other side is the culture that man takes the top of bun. Husband says nothing always take the top of bun what his wife is going to keep it for him and he thought his wife may be like the bottom of bun. one day is their 30th anniversary, wife eventually speaks out: can I have the top of bun today once in my life because I like the top, husband responded: you know: I don’t like the top but I assumed that you like the bottom of bun that’s why I never say no when you give me the top. They are living in misunderstanding and assuming for 30 years, because they don’t ask what their partners like or want or have a proper communication. So, don’t be the ones of this example, you never ask you never know be brave to speak up what you want, and ask people if you don’t understand don’t don’t don’t ……………………………. make assume. Once on the holiday to Kep [Province name of Cambodia] I stayed at my girlfriend’s bungalow, next morning I dressed up and had one of another friend to ask her, did she want to join us on road trip? Then she was so upset and not happy with me at all, she said: why didn’t you ask last night when we had dinner together? Now all you guys done dress up and came to me in the last minutes like this? You don’t want me to join, right? I am really sorry here, I didn’t mean like that I really want you to join us, the reason why I didn’t ask you last night because I assumed that you are busy with family and have your business to take care, I don’t want to bother you. It’s all what I assumed I should ask her that she is available to join us or not, lesson to learn here, thank god, she is super understanding woman, she was just like a short temper then she turned to be okay. Don’t assume always asking people when you are not sure, don’t understand or don’t know anything. Everything is going more worse when you start assuming. Many friendships and relationships turn to bad situation or break up because of they both make assuming instead of asking their partners. You might be done many good things for your friends or relationship and you assume they will be happy with what you do for them, but wait………. How you know they will like it, ask them before you want to do something for them, to ensure this is what they want and happy for it. Like what some parent they try to do and give the best for their children, they never ask their kids like it or want it at all. Because they assume that their kids are going to be happy with what they do for them, but here is the big mistake again. So, I am now keep waking myself no more assuming, stop assuming for everything, if I don’t know I ask, if I am not sure I ask, if I don’t understand I ask. No assuming there is no confusing, no misunderstanding, no hurting. So just make life much easier miss someone call them, love someone tell them, don’t understand ask, don’t agree talk, don’t like it say.
